Everyone has at least one of these occurrences and hopefully they were with the perfect people in your circle of friends.
While you're out having a great night out with great company, you or one of your friends notice the perfect person sitting right across the room and the only thing running through your mind is "Wow, wouldn't it be nice to go introduce myself to that person. I have to talk to them by the end of the night." So naturally, you point them out to your friends, and of course they develop all this courage in that spur of the moment, all because it isn't them that's putting themselves in the spotlight after all, and encourage you to walk up and just talk to them.
Then, of course in that same instance, you begin to second guess everything you were just thinking and decide not to do anything at all. The only possible thing that comes to mind is to smile every time you and that person make eye-contact. All the while thinking that will be enough. Meanwhile your best friend is tired of you being a stick in the mud and declares an ultimatum; You talk to them or I'll do it for you. Five minutes pass by and before you know it thirty minutes go by and by then your friend is already walking across the room and all you do is watch with every ounce of anxiety and embarrassment thinking "What are they saying? Oh gosh, they're looking over at me!" It seems like forever until your friend comes back only to tell you that the person you've been making eye contact here and there confesses that they have a significant other. And not to make matters just a little more awkward, but calls you from across the room and says something like "I'll see you around!" as if that doesn't make things any worse. Feeling more than slightly embarrassed, and maybe even a little silly, you automatically try to recover from the embarrassment.
Every one goes through this in their lives but it isn't the end of the world, so rest assure. Girls go through it just as much as guys do. At least this way you know you have an answer and there is no "What if" questions flooding your mind that same night. And if you by chance see that same person again down the road, smile and say Hi. They were just as flattered as you would have been if the shoe were on the other foot.
This is something I can relate to. It can be intimidating at times when faced with the possibility of rejection. I know that has stopped before. I remember few years back I their were a group(6) of girls just sitting a party. I asked everyone of them to dance, and all but one said no. I can handle rejection a bit better now, even though it can still sting bit.
ReplyDeleteMariah--Pretty good new entries. Good points and ideas. You have some good development. Keep digging into analysis and significance. Also, keep working on building context at the beginning to pull your reader into the topic.
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